Four Ways to Avoid Divorce

Dec 07

Four Ways to Avoid Divorce

If you’re about to get married or taking a trip down the aisle for a second time then you can avoid making the classic mistakes that end marriages by following these four methods for keeping that pesky divorce lawyer.

 1. Talk about Money

Ask any married couple what they argue over most and the majority will say money. Before you get married make sure you’ve discussed your finances in detail. Talk about who will have responsibility for what and the contributions that you will both make.

If you’re planning a joint account then set up rules about how the money is spend, for example you could make it a rule that each partner consult the other before spending over a certain amount.

Although prenuptial agreements tend to have a bad reputation, they can be extremely useful in terms of making financial matters clear, in particular if one partner is considerably more affluent than the other. A good family law firm offer advice and guidance of prenuptial agreements and although they will cost a certain amount of money, getting a watertight ‘prenup’ is considerably cheaper than getting a divorce.

2. Communicate Clearly

When it comes to relationships, it’s best to start as you mean to go on, so try not to develop bad habits like jumping at each other’s throats at the first sign of conflict. If you can communicate clearly with your partner and keep calm during difficult moments, you’re much less likely to end up saying things that you later regret and which could permanently damage your relationship.

If communication is not your strongpoint then visit a marriage counsellor or therapist before you tie the knot so you can learn the techniques you need to be able to share all of your hopes, fears and concerns with each other without resorting to slanging matches and slammed doors.

3. Keep the flame burning

Anyone who has been in a long term relationship knows that more often than not after a few months or years, romance tends to go out of the window. When you’re married it’s all too easy to fall into a routine that doesn’t allow any time for you and your partner to spend together, enjoying each other’s company and remembering why you’re married in the first place.

To make sure the spark of your relationship doesn’t go out you don’t have to bombard your partner with a constant tirade of gifts and declarations of undying love. All you need to do is make the effort to show that you care and to spend time together where you can focus on being a couple.

4. Stay Separate

It may sound odd to suggest that staying separate can help avoid divorce, but having your own interests, friends and so on can really help keep a marriage alive. Before you marry, think about the things that are really important to you and find ways to keep doing them. Pursuing your own interests will give you and your partner time away from each other and give you more to talk about when you are together.